By Danielle Leard

 They say that hindsight is 20/20—meaning, the mistakes you have made in the past have clear solutions to what you should’ve, could’ve, and would’ve done to make those situations better afterwards.
It’s frustrating to reflect upon past mistakes or missed opportunities that you will never get a chance to redo.

But are our mistakes really set in stone?
A habit of mine is to pick out the bad things I’ve said and done in my past (usually when I have offended people, hurt them, or made them feel uncomfortable) and replay them thousands of times in my head, which only magnifies my mistakes. It does not make me feel better. At all. In fact, it makes me fall into a deep state of self-loathing. This process cannot be healthy for me, or those around me.

What I have failed to do for too long is to actually learn from my mistakes. Making a real effort to make myself better company is something I, as well as lot of other people, have just not been doing. It is so much easier to fall into your everyday habit of messing up the same thing over and over. But that doesn’t get you anywhere.

I have hurt people. I will hurt people. As much as I wish these facts were not true, they are. And all my errors and faults will be for naught if I do not learn from them.

Altering a small fraction of my vocabulary or approaching confrontation appropriately are things I will never be applying daily if I don’t start letting my mistakes change me for good.

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