Love Triangles and Reasons Why You Really Can't Escape It


Being stuck in a love triangle can be stressful. It is an emotional mess. You are either:
  1. Pursuing multiple people. 
  2. In love with ____, who likes (not you). 
  3. The other woman/man. 
  4. In a relationship, and in love with another person.


Since I’ve entered the ‘dating decade,’ I’ve never really been able to settle into a comfortable romantic relationship with one lover. You, reader, may take pity on me, but I remain with my head held high because I have standards. I don’t just fancy a run-of-the-mill, cookie-cutter type of male or female, but one who is specially tailored to my preferences. I refuse to be called a ‘bitch’ with high-flying standards, because I have a theory that most women think alike. They just refuse to admit it. 

The dating decade is a warzone for anyone looking for love. There are many to choose from, but none completely fulfil us! We’re just left hoping for artsy, athletic, and musically-inclined Brett to notice us before socially-challenged Frank asks for our hand to the prom. Let’s face it, triple threats—artsy, athletic, and musically-inclined individuals—are hard to come by, much less manifest in the body of an adolescent. As a result, we are forced to settle for less, or for more than one. To compensate for a Brett, we fixate our eyes on multiple men or women, channeling our hungry souls toward subtle flirtation to draw their interest. We play them, then we drop them. Sometimes, we begin to find ourselves growing more and more emotionally attached to the game. The cycle never ends. A love triangle! 

Some of us want lovers we can’t have. We like the challenge. Turning our backs to the person who fancies us for someone who doesn’t shows our incredibly stubborn nature. Other times, we obsess over someone until they begin showing interest. Then, we take that as a cue to run far away in the other direction. A problem among many and a love triangle! 

I speak only for myself when I say that I have a personal preference for men who are attached. It shows me that they are capable of holding onto a relationship, and that seems attractive to me. The chase is futile most of the time, but it never eats my conscious when I become the other woman. Sonia, you may be messed up, but it’s okay. You are young. A love triangle! 

The rest of us who are in unhappy relationships may choose to remain in the relationship for whatever messed-up reason but seek love outside it. It is a three-way love battle, divided down the middle. A love triangle! 


Since this is a safe place for all cynics, I proclaim the love fantasy with a lover of my dreams long gone. It seems to me that growing older is a punch in the gut for young dreamers. When I was younger, I hypothesized that there would be plenty of people for me to fall in love with if one didn’t work out. Obviously, reality settled in, and that concept vaporized into thin air. As much as dying alone is something I dread, and polygamy completely out of the question, I realize that for all my complaints, I am just a young girl idealistic to a fault. 


By Sonia Wee

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